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Communication & sexual wellness

Effective communication is essential when it comes to sexual health and wellness, and it is important to know how to communicate about sex with a partner or partners.

About consent

Consent is an important concept when it comes to sexual activity, and it is important to understand what it means and how to obtain it.

Consent means that all parties involved in sexual activity freely and willingly agree to participate. 
Consent must be given freely, without coercion or manipulation, and it can be withdrawn at any time. 

It is important to have a clear and enthusiastic "yes" from all parties involved before engaging in sexual activity. Silence or a lack of resistance does not imply consent.

It is important to respect a partner's decision if they say "no" or withdraw consent.
Lack of consent is a violation of a person's rights and can have serious legal and emotional consequences. 

 

 

How to communicate about sex

 

Start the conversation

Initiating a conversation about sex can be difficult, but it is important to establish open communication with a partner or partners. Begin by expressing your feelings and concerns in a non-judgmental and respectful way.

 

Be honest and clear

It is important to be honest and clear about your sexual desires and boundaries. This can help to establish mutual respect and trust between partners.

 

Listen actively

Listening actively to a partner's needs and concerns is just as important as expressing your own. This can help to establish open and respectful communication.

 

Use "I" statements

Using "I" statements can help to avoid blaming or accusing a partner. For example, instead of saying "You never use protection," say "I am concerned about protection during sex."

 

Respect boundaries

It is important to respect a partner's boundaries and to communicate any discomfort or concerns during sexual activity. Always ask for consent and be respectful of a partner's decision.

 

Discuss sexual health

Discussing sexual health, such as STI testing and contraceptive use, is an important part of communication about sex. It is important to be honest about your own sexual health and to encourage partners to do the same.

SmartSex Resource

Sexual health information for everyone

 

Sex is a topic that is filled with misconceptions, stigma, and shame, but it does not have to be. There is no time limit on educating yourself about safe, consensual, enjoyable sex! If you want to learn more, ask questions, or explore safe pleasure products, the Wellness Centre can help with all those things and more. It can be intimidating to ask a stranger a question about such an intimate subject. There are resources for individuals to take home and explore in private. If you do want to talk to someone, there is a Sexual Health Educator whom you can ask any and all questions.

Sex is often only talked about with a heteronormative or "straight" lens; the resources, pleasure products, and education in this space are made to be inclusive of all bodies, genders, and sexual identities. It is okay to have questions, lack of experience, or misunderstandings, most people do! What matters is that we work towards educating ourselves so that we feel more comfortable and equipped the next time we talk about sex. 

— Jada M, BSW student (3rd year)

 

Please note that this website does not constitute, and should not be interpreted as, medical advice, diagnosis, or opinion. This website is for informational purposes only and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, or error-free. This website is not intended as a tool for self-diagnosis, is not a recommendation of a specific treatment plan or healthcare provider, and is not a substitute for proper medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek a consultation with a qualified medical or health professional.